“It’s been my experience that nothing triggers this type of toxic masculinity culture more than a gay man who isn’t afraid — and I can’t think of anything I am less afraid of than a bunch of fragile dudes who can’t deal with my existence.” – Yours truly being an absolute F-slur in People Magazine

I wrote SOFTCORE as something of a manifesto to myself about what I will and will not tolerate from men moving forward, as well as how I will or will not allow myself to react to the troubles of life relating to people in general.

The process of creating the album and film was really transformative in that way. It left me with a resolve around staying soft and open to finding love, while also shortening the runway and accommodations I provide for unkindness and indecision.

I went on a date last week — the first since calling off the wedding and flying solo again. It was nice. He was kind. I believe that is the bar now.