I wrote SOFTCORE as something of a manifesto to myself about what I will and will not tolerate from men moving forward, as well as how I will or will not allow myself to react to the troubles of life relating to people in general.
The process of creating the album and film was really transformative in that way. It left me with a resolve around staying soft and open to finding love, while also shortening the runway and accommodations I provide for unkindness and indecision.
I went on a date last week — the first since calling off the wedding and flying solo again. It was nice. He was kind. I believe that is the bar now.
A few years ago a doctor told me to stop thinking of my heart as this fragile thing that needed to be protected, but instead to think of it as a brave, tough guy out for an adventure.
(OK maybe it was a psychic who said this to me and not a doctor at all, but the message really helped!)
That same person is the one who told me to “just imagine softness coming back into your life” and so I did, and then softness came back into my life. It left again shortly after that, but I do be over here imagining softness has returned, so perhaps it will.
Eyewear campaign featuring looks by Alessandro Michele for Gucci
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Portland, you are beautiful and queer and all of my favorite people live here.
I’ll never let you go, baby.
HAPPY END OF JULY PRIDE!
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