As a songwriter, I have one rule: I always say it to the person before I write it in a song. If I feel that I can’t speak some truth to you first, I won’t sing it about you after.

Art imitates life.
Fiction imitates memory.
Avoidance imitates heartbreak.

I suppose if you can’t tell the difference when it matters, the next best thing is a metaphor.

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I wrote SOFTCORE as something of a manifesto to myself about what I will and will not tolerate from men moving forward, as well as how I will or will not allow myself to react to the troubles of life relating to people in general.

The process of creating the album and film was really transformative in that way. It left me with a resolve around staying soft and open to finding love, while also shortening the runway and accommodations I provide for unkindness and indecision.

I went on a date last week — the first since calling off the wedding and flying solo again. It was nice. He was kind. I believe that is the bar now.