I wrote SOFTCORE as something of a manifesto to myself about what I will and will not tolerate from men moving forward, as well as how I will or will not allow myself to react to the troubles of life relating to people in general.
The process of creating the album and film was really transformative in that way. It left me with a resolve around staying soft and open to finding love, while also shortening the runway and accommodations I provide for unkindness and indecision.
I went on a date last week — the first since calling off the wedding and flying solo again. It was nice. He was kind. I believe that is the bar now.
After I left Hollywood and ended my last relationship with you-know-who I decided to take some time to be completely alone and figure out what was actually going on in my life.
I promised myself at that point that the next person I let in close, kissed, slept with, or explored any sort of relationship with, would be someone I had first taken the proper time to get to know, like, trust, and genuinely care for — and I have kept that promise in the half a decade since.
Anyway, I’ve had a good solo run and have learned a ton about what (and who) I want and what (and who) I don’t want, but I’m back on men now.
Kind, dog-loving men who like naps and sandwiches and have long since deleted their Grindr accounts: Ask me out.💋
